That Unconditional Love...
It is often said you cant make someone love you. The truth is there are different ways to love. We have all said we give it, unconditional love. What is that anyways? Is it the promise to love through it all? Good, bad and ugly? Maybe it just means we love them when it is good. What happens when the bad hits? Do we simply hold our love over their head like a ticking time bomb? Knowing that any minute we can pull it away like some prize they almost wont at a carnival.
Some people dream of that fairy tale love, true love. I mean isn't that what they teach us growing up? Love songs feed it to us, movies sell it, and books romanticize it. Reality is a whole new ballgame and the truth is most of us don't get the fairy tale. What we get is contingent love. Something that is given with the idea that it will be there through it all, but truth is it can be taken away just as easily as it is given. Like that ticking time bomb, BOOM!
My love, is very different. When I love I put my heart on my sleeve, walk around showing it off and hoping that I will get the same in return. You should always want what you give. In essence we probably get far less, when the emotional investment is not the same. How do you know? The signs, are always there liking blaring neon Vegas lights. We just ignore them. Probably because the truth is much harder to take than the idea we have all planted in our heads. I have seen these signs and blindly gone in head first not knowing what my outcome would be. Four bottles of good whiskey later and that numb feeling I have survived another explosion.
This doesn't mean you give up on love, it means you become more guarded. Maybe you learn to care less control more. I used to live by that rule. Never really letting anyone in, because they could be holding the next grenade that could take my heart to pieces. It is scary when you think about how often you say those three little words... only to have them blow up in your face.
I prefer the idea that one day we all find that real love. Not that shit we all grow up dreaming of, who wants that? I want to be loved through it all, at my best and my worst. The love that can conquer the world, set up a great foundation that can withstand the most devastating blow. For now, I settle on contingent love... but one day real love will find me.. and when it does I hope that those neon Vegas lights are guiding me toward it and not away. That I can get as much as I give. Isn't that better than any fairytale or love song? Maybe that is that unconditional love so many of us yearn for.
Some people dream of that fairy tale love, true love. I mean isn't that what they teach us growing up? Love songs feed it to us, movies sell it, and books romanticize it. Reality is a whole new ballgame and the truth is most of us don't get the fairy tale. What we get is contingent love. Something that is given with the idea that it will be there through it all, but truth is it can be taken away just as easily as it is given. Like that ticking time bomb, BOOM!
My love, is very different. When I love I put my heart on my sleeve, walk around showing it off and hoping that I will get the same in return. You should always want what you give. In essence we probably get far less, when the emotional investment is not the same. How do you know? The signs, are always there liking blaring neon Vegas lights. We just ignore them. Probably because the truth is much harder to take than the idea we have all planted in our heads. I have seen these signs and blindly gone in head first not knowing what my outcome would be. Four bottles of good whiskey later and that numb feeling I have survived another explosion.
This doesn't mean you give up on love, it means you become more guarded. Maybe you learn to care less control more. I used to live by that rule. Never really letting anyone in, because they could be holding the next grenade that could take my heart to pieces. It is scary when you think about how often you say those three little words... only to have them blow up in your face.
I prefer the idea that one day we all find that real love. Not that shit we all grow up dreaming of, who wants that? I want to be loved through it all, at my best and my worst. The love that can conquer the world, set up a great foundation that can withstand the most devastating blow. For now, I settle on contingent love... but one day real love will find me.. and when it does I hope that those neon Vegas lights are guiding me toward it and not away. That I can get as much as I give. Isn't that better than any fairytale or love song? Maybe that is that unconditional love so many of us yearn for.
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